sexy, flirtatious,... I like kisses on my back, full
body massages from my boyfriend/girlfriend..."
Keep sexual innuendos out
of your profile. You will
have plenty of time to exchange raunchy emails if you
are addicted to writing sexual stuff... but in the first
impression, keep them out.
Would you say this to a guy or a
girl in a bar who you met for the first time? If not,
then don't say it in your ad
a funny, witty person with a great sense
and witty people never write that directly. Instead
of saying this, add a touch of humor to your profile. The
correct answers to the questions "Are you a funny
person?" or "Do you have a good sense of humor" is
always a "No!"
ex-husband/ex-wife used to spend too much time at work,
with her friends, not leaving enough time for us..." or
"my ex-girlfriend was so beautiful, you have to be very
Avoid talking about previous
relationships in your profile. Take the new person as
they are; no one likes being compared to previous
lovers and partners.
like taking walks by the ocean, or watching TV, or going
camping with my friends..."
Unimportant details. Most people like these things,
and these are hardly good criteria for finding a partner
(it is unlikely you won't like going out with someone
just because they don't like walking the beach or
watching TV with you). Your hobbies is where you put
these things, and more specifically-e.g. snow-boarding,
or playing basketball.
looking for a REAL man/woman, with all the letters of
like you have had some bad experiences in relationships,
but that's over now. Come with a positive attitude to
online dating, ready to meet new and interesting
like blonde women, but if you are dark-haired and very
beautiful, write me anyway, maybe you can change my
to both blonde women and dark-haired women. Don't play
both sides of the coin, generally backfires. Better not
to say anything if you are not sure.
not interested in guys who are bitter and boring..."
is. Use the Ad mostly to tell what you like, not what
you don't like. Just as in real life introductions,
agreeability is a must have in dating profiles.
factual but casual approach to writing your personal ad.
You want to let the people get to know you, but at the
same time, your ad shouldn't come across as a boring
resume. Sprinkle it with some humor, exclamation marks;
make it fun and interesting.
A good profile has 200-250 words,
with 150-200 words for yourself, and 50-100 words
describing the kind of person you are looking for.
Discuss your career
history and plans.
What kind of jobs you have held,
what your future career aspirations are, etc. These are
generally looked at as positive. Think of it as the
first conversation you are having with someone, don't we
usually talk about we do? Excellent stuff to write about
in a profile. Be brief, of course- you don’t want to go
on and on about selling shoes, delivering the mail, or
designing and fabricating cars, for that matter.
If you have children, tell
a little about them.
This is an important part of
your life, and interests the people interested in dating
you. Mention their ages, and if they live with you.
Don't describe them too much-but giving their ages for
example, makes you come across as a normal parent.
If you have moved around a
bit in your life, mention the places where you have
lived. It gets more people interested in you and
wanting to write to you. For example, if you are
presently living in Los Angeles but have lived in
Dallas, someone who has a Texas connection is more
likely to write to you. If you have lived
internationally, all the better-people are always
interested in life in other places and cultures.
If you have just moved to
where you are living now, mention that.
playing tourist guides. They are eager to know new
faces from other parts of the country or the world. They
can also help you settle down in the town more easily-so
even if nothing happens romance-wise, you can always
make some good friends.
If you speak a foreign
language, mention that. It attracts attention. Along
the same lines, mention a little of your family
genealogy, as people may find a connection there as well
(e.g. I have a Scottish or Chinese mother).
Talk about how you entertain
yourself. This is where you can be funny and witty, so
exercise your imagination.
Mention about your social circle. Are you a social person? Do you have many
friends? Do you go out with them a lot? What activities
do you do with them? If you have a good relationship
with your siblings, your parents, and your family,
mention it. Mention if they live close to you, and how
often you see them.
- Mention if you like pets, and have any of your own.
When you are talking about
the person you are looking for, be clear in your
requirements, but make sure you don’t limit yourself
So if you don't want to date men who
have kids, say so. Or if you don't want to go out with
smokers, say it clearly in your ad. But again, be
careful-you are restricting potential mates here, so put
things only if you are very sure what your potential
partner absolutely must or must not have.
- Mention if you are looking for a stable relationship or
if you are just looking to make friends and will see
how things go from there ("looking for nice and
interesting people to hang out with").
You may want to make
up a false name.
It cab be a good idea to use a
false name for your first email message to someone
if you are on a public dating site like Craigslist
or Yahoo Personals. Depending on your motivations
you want to pick the false name carefully because it
is going to be one of the top things she remembers.
Men named Chris get laid more than any others;
Edward, Dylan, and Frank fare the worst
A dating Web site called
SmartDate.com polled almost 20,000 men
(and a similar number of women) who
use their site to find out who’s
having the most sex. The results
show that guys with an “S” at the
end of the name fare the best.
According to the results, men named
Chris, Charles, Matt, Dennis [NOTE: The
D.E.N.N.I.S. system works!]
and Luke had more sexual partners
than many other common names. Men
named Chris averaged 11.3 sexual
partners, Charles averaged 11.1,
Matt averaged 10.9, Dennis averaged
10.8, and Luke averaged 10.7.
The names Edward, Dylan, Frank, and
Jason fared the worst for men,
averaging around one sexual partner
As a whole, men averaged 5.2 sexual
partners while women averaged 4.4.
On the women’s side, Vanessa,
Angela, Tamara, Diana, and Sheila
were the top five female names
giving up the golden portal the most
ranging from 10.2 to 9.4 sexual
Girls named Dorothy fared the worst,
averaging 1.3 partners (though still
higher than the Edwards, Dylans,
Franks, and Jasons of the world).
Warning to Parents – Think
Twice Before Letting Your Daughters
Date Guys Named Chris, Charles or
Smartdate.com survey finds men with
names ending in “s” are the biggest
“Players” and they have more Sexual
discovered that men with first names
ending in “s” have more sex partners
in their life span than the average
man. The website conducted a survey,
asking 19,300 of its male members
how many sexual partners they have
had, and found out that Chris,
Charles, Dennis and James said they
were more sexually active than
members named David, Brian, Jason or
found there were six “s-ending
names” in the top 10 – Chris
averaged 11.3 lovers, Charles 11.1,
Dennis 10.8 and James 10.4. On the
other end of the scale, names like
Edward, Frank and David counted less
than two lovers.
unique surveys as part of their
‘Smartdate Labs’ research. In a
previous survey they discovered that
women whose names end in A are more
survey discovered 8 “a-ending names”
in the top 10 of most lovers –
Vanessa led the way with 10.2
declared lovers and Angelina was a
close second with 9.8 lovers.